Regardless, this is another one of those posts that will start with, "when I was little."
When I was little, as you know from a previous post, I'd imagined a giant ballroom wedding with an equally giant bridal party. I guess it's a Southern thing, but for some reason it's always seemed natural to have every girl I'd ever been friends with, along with every female relative of comparable age, standing up with me at the altar. I mean, who doesn't love photos like these?
|Photo by Maija Karin Photography // via the Coren Moore blog|
|Photo by Phindy Studios // via the Brocade Design Arts blog|
|Photo by Our Labor of Love // via Once Wed|
|Photo by Julie Wilhite Photography // via Wedding Chicks|
|Photo by Nate Broshot // via Style me Pretty|
Mr. Geek, on the other hand, came up with a list of 5 people he absolutely has to have standing up with him- 2 friends from elementary school and 3 friends from college, 2 of whom were his roommates.
Back up- did I say 5? And I'm having 7 bridesmaids...THAT'S LOPSIDED! THAT IS AN UNEVEN BRIDAL PARTY! THE HORROR! THE HORRRRRROOOOOORRRRR...
|via smooreswifey on the Project Wedding boards|
|via NewlyWed_09 on the Weddingbee boards|
|via missfireslayer on the Weddingbee boards|
But wait- Mr. Geek's best man, his best friend throughout college, the person he knows he can always trust, who will always have his back (outside from me, of course!) is...A WOMAN.
Oh noes! You can't have a lady stand up on the groom's side! THE UNIVERSE IS GOING TO EXPLODE! THIS IS WORSE THAN DIVIDING BY ZERO!!!!!!!!1!!!!ONE!!!!
In all seriousness, do you have any idea how annoying- more than annoying, INSULTING- it is when people hear this and respond with "...and you're okay with that?" eyebrows raised and tone all judgmental. Am I okay with Mr. Geek's best friend standing up with him on our wedding day? Of course I am! My best friends are standing up with me! Mr. Geek's only siblings are 2 half-sisters from his mother's previous marriage, both much older than him, so he grew up essentially an only child. The friend he has asked to stand up as his "best man" is as close as any sibling. If he'd had a sister just a year older than him- hell, if he'd had a brother just a year older than him- it would've been her. And, frankly, I'm relieved he's having her in his bridal party...it's like having a spy behind enemy lines. I'll have an ally in that camp to make sure the boys are ready to go on time and wearing the right outfits and get their boutonnieres pinned on properly.
Are you having a lopsided bridal party? Did you have a mixed-gender bridal party? Were people shocked or judgmental about it?